5 Questions To Answer Before You Say “I Do”

tanya — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 06:38:41 +0000

1. What religion are you?

Seriously – this is important because, even if your partner is currently ‘non-practising’, religion can become a big deal where wedding ceremonies, children, and marriage relationships are concerned.

2. How many kids are we going to have?

None? One? Eighteen (and counting!)? Also, you should discuss options in case it turns out you can not conceive the old-fashioned way. In Vitro? Adoption? You might be surprised at your partner’s answers to these questions – better to be surprised before you walk down the aisle…

3. How much money will we have as a couple?

(Or, worse, how much money will we owe?)

You don’t want to find out that you just married a huge amount of debt – or, at least, you want to be prepared ahead of time!

4. Does family play an important role in your life?

How often are you going to spend time with your inlaws? If they are long distance – how often will you be traveling to visit – or how often will they be visiting you? What is their financial situation like? (Will you be supporting them financially in any way in the foreseeable future?) Does your partner expect that his parents will move in with you when they need to be cared for? (If you have these same expectations about your parents, your house could get very crowded!)

5. How do you see us in 5 – 10- 20 years?

Does your partner want to change careers or go back to school? Does your partner want to travel the world after retirement or sit in a rocking chair on a front porch? Is your partner going to stay active or is your partner ready to settle down, put on 20 pounds, and relax after the wedding? Is your partner going to expect you to relocate to a different city (or country) to pursue his or her career? (Or, is your partner willing to do this for you?)

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Signs to Watch For: He’s Not The Right One!

tanya — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 08:40:34 +0000

Do you want to get married?

Yes? Well don’t waste your time with the wrong guy because he’ll keep you from meeting Mr. Right (or, worse, you could end up marrying Mr. Wrong).

Top Ten Signs Your New Guy is NOT a ‘Keeper’

1. You are impressed by how early he gets up for work until you find out he has a paper route.

2. He’s only ever lived with his mom and dad and he’s 35.

3. He calls you more than twice a day every single day.

4. He shows up for your first date on a ‘Razor’.

5. You’ve been dating for two months and you only have his cell phone number and a very vague idea about where he lives and works.

6. His business card reads ‘Sandwich Artist’.

7. All of his “friends” on myspace or facebook are scantily clad, large-breasted ladies posing provocatively.

8. On your second date he asks you if you’ve ever considered getting a boob job.

9. He kicks a rambunctious dog that runs over the edge of your picnic blanket at the park.

10. He’s already borrowed money from your sister. And your brother.

Those are just ten signs I can think of off the top of my head – feel free to submit some of your own!