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5 Questions To Answer Before You Say “I Do”

tanya — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 06:38:41 +0000

1. What religion are you?

Seriously – this is important because, even if your partner is currently ‘non-practising’, religion can become a big deal where wedding ceremonies, children, and marriage relationships are concerned.

2. How many kids are we going to have?

None? One? Eighteen (and counting!)? Also, you should discuss options in case it turns out you can not conceive the old-fashioned way. In Vitro? Adoption? You might be surprised at your partner’s answers to these questions – better to be surprised before you walk down the aisle…

3. How much money will we have as a couple?

(Or, worse, how much money will we owe?)

You don’t want to find out that you just married a huge amount of debt – or, at least, you want to be prepared ahead of time!

4. Does family play an important role in your life?

How often are you going to spend time with your inlaws? If they are long distance – how often will you be traveling to visit – or how often will they be visiting you? What is their financial situation like? (Will you be supporting them financially in any way in the foreseeable future?) Does your partner expect that his parents will move in with you when they need to be cared for? (If you have these same expectations about your parents, your house could get very crowded!)

5. How do you see us in 5 – 10- 20 years?

Does your partner want to change careers or go back to school? Does your partner want to travel the world after retirement or sit in a rocking chair on a front porch? Is your partner going to stay active or is your partner ready to settle down, put on 20 pounds, and relax after the wedding? Is your partner going to expect you to relocate to a different city (or country) to pursue his or her career? (Or, is your partner willing to do this for you?)

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Wedding Proposals – Do’s and Don’ts

admin — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 21:35:08 +0000

DON’T bug her while she’s working!

That’s Steffi Graf – a great tennis player and she thinks fast on her feet too!

DON’T Say “I think I’m going to puke” After You Say Yes.

Normally I would also say DON’T interrupt her favorite TV show but I think the above was a pretty awesome exception. My eyes misted up a little bit but I’m not sure whether it was over the cute couple or the fact that my favorite show, Veronica Mars, got cancelled. Oh how I miss that feisty teenage detective.

DO Hire a Psychotherapist?

Weird, but she has an interesting angle and the pictures she included in her commercial were pretty sweet.

DON’T Do It Over the Phone

Okay that’s not the best example because if his girlfriend is a technogeek she would probably think an iproposal is very charming. But for heaven’s sake, don’t just call her and propose over the phone!

DON’T Cover It In Dog Spit

I’ve heard of hiding the ring in a piece of cake or at the bottom of a champagne glass – but in a dog’s mouth? Well, I guess if it’s a superdog it makes it more romantic!

DO Have a Ring!

I don’t have video of this, but the first time my husband proposed he just said “How about it? You want to get married?” casually over the table. When I said, “Sure, where’s the ring?” he slipped an elastic band off of his crutch (he had a broken ankle at the time). I said, “Forget it” and then I had to wait around wondering if he was ever going to bother to ask me again. So maybe this rule should actually be “DO say yes the first time he asks if you actually want to marry him”. Hmmm….

Waiting for a proposal when you want one can be stressful stuff. But what about proposing? Now that has to be much worse! Here is a funny skit from the “Just For Laughs” gags: