My Big Fat Engagement – Engagement Advice & Warnings

Tips for the Mother of the Bride (MOB)

These tips are applicable to mothers, aunts, and grandmothers of the bride or the groom; or really any guest at the wedding!

Your goal for the big day is to look beautiful while not stealing any attention away from the bride.

Use the following words to guide you:

• Classy
• Elegant
• Formal
• Reserved

None of the following words should apply to you on the wedding day:

• Sexy
• Cleavage
• Loud
• Scene-stealing

Bad Example – Jane Fonda in Monster in Law

Note how she is wearing something that looks a bit too much like a wedding dress! It is rarely acceptable for the MOB to wear white: never pick a dress this color unless the bride specifically requests it.

Good Example – Diane Keaton in Father of the Bride

Jewelry

Jewelry should also fit the above descriptions (classy, elegant, formal). An anklet or toe ring is rarely appropriate (except perhaps a beach wedding?). Diamonds aren’t just for brides, either…

Dress

It is wise to discuss your dress with the mother of the groom as well, to make sure you are both on the same page and you both feel comfortable on the big day. Talk to your daughter about colors: does she want you to wear one of the wedding colors or any color specifically? Some of my favorite MOB colors are sage and creme. Pale colors work well for most weddings. Perhaps a paler shade of the bridesmaid’s dresses or a complimentary color – don’t forget  you will be in many photos.

This beautiful gown is from Christina Gowns:

Many bridal designers also offer Mother of the Bride fashions, but don’t feel limited to these retailers. Often cocktail dresses are appropriate if you follow the guidelines above. You may find a nice dress and then select a jacket to cover your arms. Many dresses come with a matching jacket – bolero jackets, shrugs and shawls are also available online and in stores as separates. If you enjoy going on cruises, you may even be able to wear your dress again!

Here are some options for Jasmine Bridal:

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