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As promised, I am sharing from the positive side of my old copy of “You an Your Wedding” (written by Winifred Gray, first published 1959 – see my earlier post).
According to this book, the “bridesmaids’ party is usually a luncheon” – it can be hosted by the bride, her mother, the groom’s mother, or a female relative. It takes place a few days before the ceremony and the bride gives out her gifts to her bridesmaids at this time. This sounds nice but I don’t know if it’s that practical because it seems like there are already so many events leading up to a wedding – perhaps this one is too much? If you have the time, it does sound like it would be fun and might be a great alternative if you are feeling pressured to invite your mom to your bachelorette. You can have a tame bridesmaids’ party instead and then a more private bachelorette party (secret, if necessary!).
What I found really interesting however is that there is a ‘”very old but still enjoyable tradition” of serving a cake filled with surprises [You and Your Wedding, page 117].
Now, this is not to be confused with the Stagette or Bachelorette Party, where a muscular male stripper might jump out of a cake. No, no – this is a cake that has been stuffed with the following items:
A dime (for riches)
A ring (for first to be married)
A thimble (the old maid)
Wishbone (luckiest)
Boat (for travel)
Boy doll (romance)
Girl doll (a rival)
Miniature cow or horse (live in the country)
Of course, if you wanted to combine this tradition with your Bachelor Party you could make the items on the list more interesting (or just change their meanings).
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The Wedding Times
October 17th, 2008 at 5:00 pm
Wow great article! Thanks, I’ve put it up on my blog, too – I hope you don’t mind! In fact, every time you post something I just lift it right off your blog and put it on mine, thanks for doing all that work for me!
tanya
October 24th, 2008 at 2:54 am
You can buy these charms at http://www.wedding-cake-charms.com/ – one of our commenters on a previous post is associated with this site. Thanks, Jim!