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Worried About His Bachelor Party?
28Sep2008 Filed under: Bachelor and Bachelorette Parties, Engagement Advice Author: adminHopefully you trust your man 100% if you are going to marry him. But what about his friends? Here are some tips to help you relax while your man parties it up as a single guy for the last time…
Smart Party Pointers for the Bachelorette
1. Plan your Bachelorette for the same night.
You will be so busy have your own good times that you will forget to worry about what your fiance is doing. Ask your Maid of Honor and the Best Man to arrange a meeting of both parties at the end of the night. Your guy won’t want to meet up with you smelling like someone else’s perfume…
2. Make sure your dad, your brother or your best male friend is invited.
Or better yet, get all three invited. Having other guys there to look out for you will keep the party clean.
3. Suggest a bachelor party trip to a remote area instead of one night out on the town.
Say to your man, “A bachelor night? Sounds fun, honey, but why not make it a whole weekend?” Then suggest a weekend canoe trip, challenging hike or offer up your uncle’s cabin. Just make sure it’s far enough out that no stripper will make the trip.
4. Have a ‘Stag and Doe’ Party instead.
Why not whoop it up together? You can have a wild party where you, your fiance and all of your friends get to drink and dance the night away. This idea makes sense if you and your future hubby share the same group of friends. If you don’t, this is a chance for everyone to get acquainted before the big day.
5. Discuss the ground rules before the party planning starts.
Sit down with your man and talk about both parties. Remind him that the guidelines you agree on will apply to both of you (he may think twice about his plans if he starts picturing you doing the same things…) If you are very uncomfortable with strippers, gambling or heavy drinking you can ask him to make other plans. But, remember, it is probably much wiser to set guidelines together rather than making any statements that start with “I forbid you to…”. For example, a ‘you can look but don’t touch’ rule is more effective than total ban on strippers because a ban is completely out of your control (his friends are planning the party, not your husband, and they may decide to ignore your wishes.) Don’t forget to start this conversation in a relaxed and friendly manner – you may be pleasantly surprised to find out that he totally agrees with all of your concerns. I mean, he has already proposed to you so he’s ready to settle down, right?
5. Ask your man to fill out the following application and submit it to you. Bachelor Party Approval Form
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bachelor scared - Page 2 - Bunch O' Brides Wedding Forum
October 2nd, 2008 at 7:58 pm
[...] area instead of one night out on the town, have a
dcp511
February 23rd, 2009 at 12:41 am
To the point and an excellent article.
stargazer
November 12th, 2009 at 4:37 am
This article is ridiculous in so many ways that I can’t count them. First, if you trust your fiance, why do you need to send your dad or your brother or best male friend, and to plan your bachelorette the same night to take your mind off your worries. Or to send him to a remote area–”too remote for strippers.” (By the way, there is nowhere too remote for strippers.) He should not be doing anything that makes you want to have your brother or dad there. Also, why the low self-esteem and thinking you can’t set ground rules. For instance, saying that a total ban on strippers is ineffective because he has no control on what his friends do is just plain stupid. Is this guy two years old? His friends will not ignore his wishes if he makes his wishes clear. And just because he proposed does not mean, believe it or not, that he is ready to settle down, as stated. If his friends are going to ignore your wishes (and maybe his) and he is not man enough to speak up, and you have to worry about his going to strippers in spite of your discomfort with them, and perhaps even wanting to go to the strippers, then he is only ready for YOU to settle down. Get real. This article is addressing women who are uncomfortable with strippers. It is reasonable to be uncomfortable with strippers if you think that marriage is about your commitment to each other and that other naked women do not belong in your relationship. There may be women out there who don’t feel that way, but if you are not one of them, you have every right to expect that your fiance and his friends will respect your feelings.
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November 13th, 2009 at 4:15 am
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tanya
November 13th, 2009 at 4:17 am
Stargazer – such a whimsical name for such a serious person! Thank you for your inspiring reply – please refer to today’s post “Is It Wrong To Worry About His Bachelor Party?” for my response.