Comments on: Worried About His Bachelor Party? http://www.mybigfatengagement.com/worried-about-his-bachelor-party/ Getting Married? Need Engagement Advice? Listen up. Tue, 27 Dec 2011 22:06:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: tanya http://www.mybigfatengagement.com/worried-about-his-bachelor-party/comment-page-1/#comment-582 tanya Tue, 05 Oct 2010 16:37:39 +0000 http://www.mybigfatengagement.com/?p=67#comment-582 Hi Stephanie, thank you for sharing a different perspective about this topic - you raise some really good points. I see what you mean about trying to avoid the whole "fiancee vs the friends" battle, too. I know there are some women out there who are seriously worried about what is going to happen at the stag, and I was trying to offer some solutions. Your response will be helpful to them, as well. Hi Stephanie, thank you for sharing a different perspective about this topic – you raise some really good points. I see what you mean about trying to avoid the whole “fiancee vs the friends” battle, too. I know there are some women out there who are seriously worried about what is going to happen at the stag, and I was trying to offer some solutions. Your response will be helpful to them, as well.

]]> By: Stephanie http://www.mybigfatengagement.com/worried-about-his-bachelor-party/comment-page-1/#comment-579 Stephanie Mon, 13 Sep 2010 17:09:36 +0000 http://www.mybigfatengagement.com/?p=67#comment-579 Wow...I completely understand being uncomfortable with strippers...but you all are missing the point of the bachelor party. It is his last night where you DON'T have control. His last chance to make sure this is truly what he wants in life, because marriage is a LIFE LONG commitment. If your insecurities put restrictions on his party, then you are inviting resentment later in life. Shouldn't you feel secure that he asked YOU to spend the rest of his life with him? Most likely, if he has a crazy night, it will reinforce why he is choosing to settle down in the first place. I feel like relationships started with this mentality is part of the reason our society has such a high divorce rate. And about his friends; they may make plans despite your wishes (I have a lot of guy friends, and I've seen it happen), and you will put more strain on him if you try to make it a "me vs them" kind of thing. The party is about him, and having fun, not stressing over who he is going to upset. You need to focus on your bachelorette party, and understand that if you love this man, you need to trust him and WANT him to have a good time. By the way, all of this stays true for the bachelorette party too :) Wow…I completely understand being uncomfortable with strippers…but you all are missing the point of the bachelor party. It is his last night where you DON’T have control. His last chance to make sure this is truly what he wants in life, because marriage is a LIFE LONG commitment. If your insecurities put restrictions on his party, then you are inviting resentment later in life. Shouldn’t you feel secure that he asked YOU to spend the rest of his life with him? Most likely, if he has a crazy night, it will reinforce why he is choosing to settle down in the first place. I feel like relationships started with this mentality is part of the reason our society has such a high divorce rate.

And about his friends; they may make plans despite your wishes (I have a lot of guy friends, and I’ve seen it happen), and you will put more strain on him if you try to make it a “me vs them” kind of thing. The party is about him, and having fun, not stressing over who he is going to upset. You need to focus on your bachelorette party, and understand that if you love this man, you need to trust him and WANT him to have a good time.

By the way, all of this stays true for the bachelorette party too :)

]]> By: tanya http://www.mybigfatengagement.com/worried-about-his-bachelor-party/comment-page-1/#comment-349 tanya Fri, 13 Nov 2009 04:17:18 +0000 http://www.mybigfatengagement.com/?p=67#comment-349 Stargazer - such a whimsical name for such a serious person! Thank you for your inspiring reply - please refer to today's post "Is It Wrong To Worry About His Bachelor Party?" for my response. Stargazer – such a whimsical name for such a serious person! Thank you for your inspiring reply – please refer to today’s post “Is It Wrong To Worry About His Bachelor Party?” for my response.

]]> By: Is It Wrong To Worry About His Bachelor Party? | My Big Fat Engagement - Engagement Advice & Warnings http://www.mybigfatengagement.com/worried-about-his-bachelor-party/comment-page-1/#comment-348 Is It Wrong To Worry About His Bachelor Party? | My Big Fat Engagement - Engagement Advice & Warnings Fri, 13 Nov 2009 04:15:14 +0000 http://www.mybigfatengagement.com/?p=67#comment-348 [...] recent comment on an old post, ‘Worried About His Bachelor Party?’ inspired today’s [...] [...] recent comment on an old post, ‘Worried About His Bachelor Party?’ inspired today’s [...]

]]> By: stargazer http://www.mybigfatengagement.com/worried-about-his-bachelor-party/comment-page-1/#comment-344 stargazer Thu, 12 Nov 2009 04:37:30 +0000 http://www.mybigfatengagement.com/?p=67#comment-344 This article is ridiculous in so many ways that I can't count them. First, if you trust your fiance, why do you need to send your dad or your brother or best male friend, and to plan your bachelorette the same night to take your mind off your worries. Or to send him to a remote area--"too remote for strippers." (By the way, there is nowhere too remote for strippers.) He should not be doing anything that makes you want to have your brother or dad there. Also, why the low self-esteem and thinking you can't set ground rules. For instance, saying that a total ban on strippers is ineffective because he has no control on what his friends do is just plain stupid. Is this guy two years old? His friends will not ignore his wishes if he makes his wishes clear. And just because he proposed does not mean, believe it or not, that he is ready to settle down, as stated. If his friends are going to ignore your wishes (and maybe his) and he is not man enough to speak up, and you have to worry about his going to strippers in spite of your discomfort with them, and perhaps even wanting to go to the strippers, then he is only ready for YOU to settle down. Get real. This article is addressing women who are uncomfortable with strippers. It is reasonable to be uncomfortable with strippers if you think that marriage is about your commitment to each other and that other naked women do not belong in your relationship. There may be women out there who don't feel that way, but if you are not one of them, you have every right to expect that your fiance and his friends will respect your feelings. This article is ridiculous in so many ways that I can’t count them. First, if you trust your fiance, why do you need to send your dad or your brother or best male friend, and to plan your bachelorette the same night to take your mind off your worries. Or to send him to a remote area–”too remote for strippers.” (By the way, there is nowhere too remote for strippers.) He should not be doing anything that makes you want to have your brother or dad there. Also, why the low self-esteem and thinking you can’t set ground rules. For instance, saying that a total ban on strippers is ineffective because he has no control on what his friends do is just plain stupid. Is this guy two years old? His friends will not ignore his wishes if he makes his wishes clear. And just because he proposed does not mean, believe it or not, that he is ready to settle down, as stated. If his friends are going to ignore your wishes (and maybe his) and he is not man enough to speak up, and you have to worry about his going to strippers in spite of your discomfort with them, and perhaps even wanting to go to the strippers, then he is only ready for YOU to settle down. Get real. This article is addressing women who are uncomfortable with strippers. It is reasonable to be uncomfortable with strippers if you think that marriage is about your commitment to each other and that other naked women do not belong in your relationship. There may be women out there who don’t feel that way, but if you are not one of them, you have every right to expect that your fiance and his friends will respect your feelings.

]]> By: dcp511 http://www.mybigfatengagement.com/worried-about-his-bachelor-party/comment-page-1/#comment-127 dcp511 Mon, 23 Feb 2009 00:41:29 +0000 http://www.mybigfatengagement.com/?p=67#comment-127 To the point and an excellent article. To the point and an excellent article.

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